“Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.” – Malachy McCourt
Do you hold resentment towards someone who has wronged you or treated you badly? How long have you resented them for? Does it eat you up inside and cause feelings of hurt, anger or fear? Oftentimes we keep this resentment bottled up without expressing it.
Resentment can eat away at you, often for years after the incident or events leading up to it occurred. Holding onto resentments is one of the most common things that hold us in negative patterns. Resentment keeps us stuck, compromises our happiness and prevents our natural healing process.
Why We Hold Onto Resentment
The reason that we hold onto resentment is because it usually benefits us in some way. It may remind us to keep the person we feel has wronged us at a distance, to put barriers up to protect ourselves when we are in their company or to protect us from others who may also treat us the same way. Maybe you learn never to treat another person the way you were treated. Once you work out what you learn positively by resenting the person, it becomes possible to let it go and move on.
Why You Should Let Go Of Resentment
“Resentment always hurts you more than the person you resent.” – Rick Warren
The person that you are resentful of probably has no idea that you feel this way. With that in mind, why hold onto it? They are probably off leading their own lives not giving you a second thought. Do you really want to waste your energy when they don’t even know? By not letting go, you block your intuition and your ability to heal. True healing can only take place when you let resentment go. Do you really want to give someone else the power to keep you from healing?
How To Let Go Of Resentment
The key to letting resentment go is to come to terms with what happened. Once you determine how it benefits you to hold onto it, you are free to let it go. Acknowledge who or what you are resentful about and all the negative emotions that arise because of it. You are allowed to say that it has caused you these feelings. There is no shame in feeling hurt and there is no shame in expressing it either.
Crying is an incredibly effective way of releasing negative emotions yet we are taught that it’s shameful to cry or that crying is only for babies. Releasing emotions by crying is just a part of the healing process. Let it out.
Forgiveness is the final key that will unlock you from the confines of resentment. By forgiving the person who has wronged you, you take back your power and protect yourself and you free yourself from your self-enforced burden.
What should you do if you can’t release the resentment yourself? Sometimes it’s hard to see the positive in a negative situation for yourself. If resentment is holding you back in life, find someone to help you work through it. ThetaHealing is extremely effective at releasing resentments and helping you find a way forward. I work with clients every day to help them understand, come to terms with and free themselves of resentment. Why not free yourself of this negativity by booking a session with me today? Are you ready?
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I am a certified ThetaHealing® Instructor, life management consultant and a mandala artist. Also certified reiki and Access Bars, I combine these techniques to bring about positive change in your life.
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